Wednesday, 1 December 2021

My happiness doesn’t depend on a man: Italian woman marries herself

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MILAN: An Italian woman has made headlines across the world after marrying herself in a ceremony with a white wedding dress, a three tier cake, bridesmaids and 70 guests.

Laura Mesi, a fitness instructor and vlogger from the small town of Lissone near Milan, is believed to be the first woman in the country to marry herself following the ceremony last week.

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The 40-year-old said the idea of a solo wedding – which has no legal significance – first came to her two years ago after the end of a 12-year relationship.

She told La Repubblica: “I told my relatives and friends that if I had not found my soul mate I would marry myself by my 40th birthday”.

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She said she has not rejected the possibility that she may one day find love again but said she can “live a fairytale even without a Prince Charming”.

“If tomorrow I find a man to build a future with I will be happy, but my happiness will not depend on him,” she added.

She said she had spent just over 10,000 euros (£8,750) on the day but was able to cover the expenses of the reception through gifts from the 70 wedding guests.

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Ms Mesi said her family had been supportive of her decision – including her brother was initially sceptical but served as a celebrant at the ceremony.

She is believed to be the first woman to celebrate a self-marriage in Italy, but earlier this year Nello Ruggiero was the first groom to marry himself in a ceremony in Naples.

Ms Mesi is one of an increasing number of people entering into a marriage with themselves without waiting for a partner.

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In the US, a website called “I Married Me” sells self-wedding kits and a wedding planning agency in Vancouver, Canada, specifically caters for self-marriage.

British blogger Sophie Tanner became one of the first women in the UK to marry herself in 2015 in Brighton.

The 38-year-old, who later wrote a novel about self-marriage and is campaigning to give it legal recognition, told the BBC: “Sologamy,as it’s known, is a growing movement for men and women, with consultants and self-wedding planners popping up all over the world.

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“My marriage isn’t legally recognised in the UK, but, for me, it was an important ceremony that demonstrates my commitment to self-compassion.

“I’ve never been that girly girl dreaming of my big day. But, as I started to find myself again following my break-up, I thought, what could be more romantic than to show myself, and everyone else, that I deserve this, the ultimate day? I don’t need to put up with bad men, or to be constantly chasing ‘The One’. Perhaps I am ‘My One’.”

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