Grab some lube and figure out where things are and what feels good (one place to start: your G-spot, reputed source of most V-gasms, located on the front wall of your vagina). “Instead of focusing on the end game, concentrate on the sensations you feel in the moment,” suggests Emily Deayala, a sex therapist in Dallas. (Get some help from this Form 6 Waterproof Rechargeable Vibrating Massager from the Women’s Health Boutique—it’s designed for internal, G-spot and clitoral stimulation.)
Step 2: Lots Of Stimulation
You want good blood flow-everywhere-so try going for a run or bike ride first; a 2011 study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that women who had a greater heart-rate variability (i.e., were more fit) had a higher chance of experiencing orgasm. Then when you’re together, take your time with more intimate stimulation: Set the scene by slowly undressing, or extend foreplay by messing around while still clothed.
Step 3: Find The Right Position
A V-gasm is all about the angle, so certain positions make it more likely. Case in point: girl-on-top (though doggy style is popular too). This allows you to control the rate and depth of thrusts; some women feel the most intensity when the penis reaches the cervix, others feel more in the first third of the vagina (G-spot land). Find your own sweet spot, and try some deep thrusts-a 2013 study found that deep vaginal stimulation can spur the big V.
Step 4: Use A Toy
Hands down (so to speak), experts talk up using a couples gadget like We-Vibe during sex (see more toys here). With an internal toy, the added feeling of fullness makes it easier to create friction along the G-spot side of your vagina, and the clitoral stimulation can send you over the edge.